“It was such a blessing to find myself thriving in the middle of the pain. Unless you find a way to do that, there's always going to be this fake illusion that once you get there--wherever "there" is for you--you'll be happy. But that's just not life. If you can't find happiness in the ugliness, you're not going to find it in beauty, either.”
- Joanna Gaines
Manage Your Stress by Monitoring Your Body’s Reactions to It
Article - Erica Ariel Fox (6 Minutes): Being ambitious, it’s easy to push ourselves as hard as we can. This approach, however, has its downsides. This article details a once upbeat, high performing business leader who became exhausted, stressed, overwhelmed, and let his work slip as he took on a new leadership role. The first step to getting out of your own way is to develop what Erica Ariel Fox calls your inner Lookout. She outlines 3 ways to get started: take inventory, label your thoughts and feelings, and listen to your Lookout. Read more here.
This Talk Isn’t Very Good. Dancing With My Inner Critic
Video - Steve Chapman (13 Minutes): Steve Chapman shares an insight from influential Gestalt psychologist Arnold Beisser suggested, “the paradox of change is that we change more by becoming deeply aware of who we are rather than striving to become something we’re not.” Our stubbornness when trying to deal with our inner critic arises from a default response to try to fight it or prove it wrong. This causes us to try to improve, thereby reinforcing the belief that we are not good enough. This talk by Steve Chapman shows us that by being able to dance with our inner critic (rather than fight it) we are able to expand our current awareness, and in doing so, liberate more of our creative ambitions. Whoa.
Fun Fact: The only books Seth Godin sold as a book packager were “stolen” ideas
When Seth started as a book packager (like a movie producer, but for books), 40,000 books were published each year. Of all the books he sold to a publisher, every topic had already been done before. Every single one had a substitute. The books that didn’t sell were the books with original topics. As Seth puts it, “all your ideas have been stolen already.” What will you do now?
Quick Tip: Stuck on what constitutes a Most important Task? Make a master M.I.T. List for handy reference.
Quick Tip - To become more productive, we know we should be spending our days working on tasks that make meaningful progress on long term goals. But what task constitutes your most important task? Tim Ferriss defines an M.I.T. by asking, “If this were the only thing I accomplished today, would I be satisfied with my day?” or “Will moving this forward make all the other to-do’s unimportant or easier to knock off later?
We created a master M.I.T list to further help us categorize our tasks and determine if we were using our time effectively. Here’s a business example to highlight tasks that move the needle forward:
Nurturing key business relationships
Developing new products
Expanding into new markets
Focusing your marketing efforts
Closing lucrative deals
Developing an industry leading innovation
These categories give you a clear metric to ask yourself if your task is truly a M.I.T. task (versus an urgent, but ultimately not as important task). What are the M.I.T.s for your profession? Make this list so you have a handy reference. Odds are, nurturing key relationships (whether your boss, clients, and/or with colleagues) should be high up on the list.
Thank you for reading and have a great rest of the week,