“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
- Anaïs Nin
Goals vs Systems by Scott Adams
Article (6 Minutes) - This is perhaps one of the best mental models when it comes to evaluating your personal success. You may set a goal and either achieve it or miss it; however, systems are processes you follow that improve your odds of achieving a goal on a consistent basis. Scott Adams, creator of Dilbert, takes a fresh approach to explain this concept.
How to Be Confident by The School of Life
Video (5 Minutes) - In the book Antifragile, Nassim Taleb points out that, with few exceptions, those who dress outrageously, are robust and antifragile in reputation, while those who are clean-cut and dress in suits and ties are fragile to information about them. This video by The School of Life follows a similar line of thought: to be more confident accept your, and everyone else's, dim wittedness.
Never Tell Yourself You Are Too Old to Make It
Article (2 Minutes) - Since pop media showcases everyone’s success story, it’s easy to forget that everyone lived an average life before fame and fortune. We may feel like we’re supposed to have it all figured out within a few years of graduating school. This short post reminds us that it’s never too late to choose a new path, find your flow, and make an impact.
Quick Tip: Next time you are struggling with an emotional decision or being self-critical, pretend you are giving advice to a friend.
Quick Tip (1 Minute) - Many Five Minute Journaler’s struggle with the last daily question “How would you have made today even better?” It brings up feelings of unworthiness, having not done enough. Perhaps when giving yourself advice you dive deep into self-criticism. Would you tolerate a friend talking to you the way you talk to yourself? Often the best remedy is to get some distance from the situation by imagining a third party giving us advice. Writing in the third person also helps you distance yourself from the situation and has shown to give you a more objective, kinder perspective. So next time you need advice, ask: What would a wise, kind friend say to me?
Thank you for reading and have a great rest of the week,