Get Closer Conversation Cards: Shadow Self

Your shadow self is made up of the parts of you that influence your reactions, habits, and relationships, often without you noticing. These can be things like defensiveness, people-pleasing, avoidance, self-doubt, or the way you react when you feel triggered.

These patterns usually develop early in life and stick around because they once helped you cope. Shadow self work is simply the process of noticing these patterns and understanding where they come from. When you can name them, you gain more choice in how you respond instead of reacting automatically.

Your shadow isn’t something “bad” or broken. It’s simply the parts of you that haven’t always had space to be seen or understood.

This edition uses clear, thoughtful questions to help you notice what’s underneath your reactions, choices, and relationships, without judgment or pressure.

You can use this deck as a personal reflection or journaling tool.

Pull one card at a time and read the question. Take a moment to notice what comes up - any thoughts, emotions, memories, or resistance. You can answer out loud, write your response in a journal, or simply sit with the question. There’s no need to resolve anything. The goal is awareness, not conclusions.

Some people like to return to the same question days later and notice what’s changed. Others pull a card when they feel stuck, reactive, or unsure. You can spend two minutes or twenty. Use it when it feels helpful.

When playing with others, choose a setting that feels calm and unhurried. You can play with a partner, close friends, or a small group.

Take turns drawing a card and reading the question out loud. Each person answers honestly, sharing only what feels comfortable. There’s no requirement to explain or justify your answer, and listening is just as important as speaking.

The deck includes different levels of depth, so you can choose how far to go based on trust and comfort. You can stop at any time, skip questions, or switch levels. The goal isn’t to push, it’s to create space for honesty and understanding.

Ways to use it together:
• As a weekly check-in with a partner.
• During a quiet evening with close friends.
• As a deeper alternative to a typical game night.
• One question per person, or one shared question discussed together.

The Shadow Self Edition goes deeper. While the original Get Closer focuses on connection and bonding, this edition is designed to explore inner dynamics, emotional triggers, and self-awareness, either alone or with others.

The questions are deep, but not overwhelming. They’re designed to invite reflection, not emotional overload. You always choose how much you want to share, or whether to skip a question entirely.

No. This edition is intentionally designed without therapy language or psychological complexity. The questions meet you where you are and can be answered at your own pace.

It’s crucial to understand that Get Closer® Shadow Self Edition is not therapy. It’s a self-reflection and conversation tool that can complement personal growth, therapy, or mindfulness practices.

This edition is best suited for those ages 16+, due to the reflective and emotional nature of the questions.

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Please refer to the full list of countries that we do not ship to at this time, at the bottom of the page. We’re actively working to expand our shipping options to these countries in the future.

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How does Shop Pay Installments work?

Shop Pay gives you the option to pay in full at checkout, or to split your purchase into four equal, bi-weekly, interest-free installment payments. When available, Shop Pay Installments is an option for orders between 50 USD and 3,000 USD.

Am I eligible to use Shop Pay Installments?

To use Shop Pay Installments, you need to live in the United States and register for Shop Pay. When choosing Shop Pay Installments, the following limitations apply:

How do I manage my Shop Pay Installments payments?

Your Shop Pay Installments orders appear in the Home tab of the app. You can tap on an order for a summary of your repayment status. Tap View installments for more detailed info about past and upcoming payments.

Make a manual payment on a Shop Pay Installments order:

You can make a manual payment on a Shop Pay Installments order in the Shop app.

1. From the Home tab, tap the order you want to make a payment for.

2. Tap View Installments, and then tap Make a payment.

3. Select an option in the Amount to pay section.

4. In the Card section, select the card you want to pay with.

5. Tap Pay now, and then tap Continue.

Change your payment method for an existing Shop Pay Installments order:

You can change your payment method on a Shop Pay Installments order while it's in repayment. Going forward, the new payment method will be used for payments on this order. If you want to update your payment method for multiple Shop Pay Installments orders, then you need to complete the steps below for each order.

1. From the Home tab, tap the order that you want to change the payment method for.

2. Tap View Installments, and then tap Payment options.

3. Select the new payment method that you want to use. If you need to add a new payment method, then tap Use a different card, and complete the required fields. 

Where can I find more information about Shop Pay Installments?

• For information about an existing order or to ask for a refund, please contact our support at hello@intelligentchange.com.
  
  

• For infomation about Shop Pay Installments payments and financing, such as why you might not have been approved, visit the Shop Pay Installments Help Center. 

• For general info about the Shop Pay Installments experience, such as how it works and the purchase flow, email installments@shop.app. 

We believe in a better tomorrow, a more productive and happier you. We create tools for the lifelong learners and doers because you are changing the world every day. We designed these tools with proven principles of positive psychology and daily accountability.

This is why we are offering a 6-Month Money-Back Guarantee: if you do not feel Intelligent Change products* have shaped a better attitude towards productivity and happiness, simply email us at hello@intelligentchange.com so we can organize your return. 

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